"He's Just Not That Into You"

Over the past few days I had the privilege of reading the book, "He's Just Not That Into You".  Wow, was it an eye opener. At first as I was reading this book I was a little offended, definitely a little defensive. But as I kept reading I began to see what the authors, Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo were talking about. There was one chapter in particular that really hit home with me. 

"he's just not that into you if he's breaking up with you" 

Now you would think this is common knowledge, if a guy breaks up with you, obviously he doesn't want to be with you...right? But how many times have you been dumped and still held onto hope that the man who just broke your heart will somehow realize how incredible you are and want to get back with you? Or maybe they broke up with you but still want to be your friend because they're not quite ready to have you out of their life yet.  If you haven't, well good for you, no need to read the rest of this. If you're anything like me though, you've held onto hope. I just want to put a few paragraphs from the book here for you to read, hopefully it will open your eyes to the reality of being dumped.

"Don't be flattered that he misses you. He should miss you. You're deeply missable. However, he's still the same person who just broke up with you. Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he's choosing, every day, not to be with you. Deciding to get back together with someone is a complicated and difficult decision. Just remember that the person you are getting back together with is the same person who, not long before, looked you in your beautiful face, took full stock of you and your qualities, and told you that he was no longer in need of your company. If aliens haven't recently abducted your beloved and switched his brain for the brain of a guy who's really into you, please consider the option that the bum maybe just got a little lonely." 

Now this is kind of a slap in the face, but it's true. I don't think I've ever quite thought about the reality of being dumped and what it means, but this definitely opened my eyes to it. Each person in this world is deserving of love. We deserve to find someone who adores us and wants to make the sacrifices necessary to be with us. It may take a long time to find this person, but eventually we all will. When the stars align and the timing is right, we will meet the person who wants to be with us more than anything. Until then, do your best to stay positive and avoid guys who are just not that into you. Remember that you deserve better than that!