The Fairytale Life

Taylor Swift may get a lot of crap for her relationships and all the songs she sings about them, but if you listen closely, you’ll find a lot of truth in her songs. One of my favorite lines from her newest album is, “Love is a ruthless game, unless you play it good and right.” Oh, how terribly true that statement is. Love is like a game of Russian roulette. You take a shot and hope you don’t die because of it.

Here’s the thing, we all think that our life is going to be a fairytale, that the man of our dreams will come up to our door and tell us they are madly in love with us and can’t stop thinking about us and plant a big smooch right on us that will take our breath away. Of course, there is always that 1% of the population who does get that romantic and happy ending. But for the rest of us, it’s not that easy. We go through rejection after rejection, not knowing what we did wrong. It’s the worst. Especially when a guy tells you they like you, and then decides to suddenly change his mind. There is nothing more confusing.

How many countless hours do we spend listening to Taylor Swift and eating ice cream just hoping and praying that they’ll see the light and realize how they feel about us? The sad truth is, they just might not like us the way we wish they would. I believe there is someone out there for everyone, but more often than not, it comes in a way completely unexpected. We have all these unreal expectations from all the romance novels we’ve read and romantic comedies we’ve watched. In the end, what it comes down to is that we just want someone to love us.

Every girl is the same when you get rid of all the surface stuff. We just want someone to notice how unique and beautiful we are. Is that so much to ask for? So many people make fun of Taylor Swift for her songs about her countless failed relationships, but here’s the thing, Taylor Swift knows, man. She writes about real stuff. If you’ve felt it, she’s got a song about it. And let me tell you what, it is much better to put yourself out there and to get your heart broken over and over again than to never take a chance. Yes, it may hurt, but at least you’re trying, and with every broken heart you are able to come back stronger, and learn from mistakes and learn what you like and want in a person. And even more important, you are learning about yourself.

Something that most people don’t realize is that you can be happy all by yourself. You will never really be happy with someone if you aren’t happy by yourself first. You have to realize that it may be a very long time before someone comes into your life to stay forever. Instead of moping around and being sad about it, take that time to start developing all the qualities that you would want in a significant other. If you focus on becoming the best you that you can possibly be, eventually, when the time is right, a wonderful man will walk into your life and make you so incredibly happy you’ll wonder if your life is a sappy romance movie.

In the meantime though, you might have to be a little lonely and unhappy. You might have to deal with being “just friends” with the person you like a lot. Sometimes it’s not the right timing, and that’s okay. Patience is a virtue, and in the end it really pays off to wait for what you really want instead of settling for something crappy because you didn’t want to wait. It’s like Mother Gothel said in Tangled, “All good things to those who wait.” Even though she was evil, she was right when she said that. Take it to heart. Keep your chin up, things will all work out in the end and you’ll find yourself looking back at this time in your life and laughing about how distraught you were over all of this. Life is a crazy ride, learn to enjoy it while you can.